Healing Inner Child & Emotional Connection

Healing your inner child, and healing your overall mental wellbeing is such an experience. It makes you not only confront the trauma and pain you went through, but it also requires you to dig deep within yourself; confronting the wrongdoings of your actions as a result of your trauma. It’s hard to know that you’ve hurt other people, it’s ever harder to accept the fact that sometimes that’s going to happen whether you mean it to or not. No you cannot manage other people’s emotions, but you can acknowledge them and you can acknowledge how your actions may have impacted their emotions. Even if it’s unintentional, you’re words or away hurt someone, create a space where they can come to you, be open and willing to listen to understand. For me I tend to shut down, I have a hard time understanding why people can’t handle big emotions in their own. For example, my cousin recently passed away, I gave my mom a hug and told her everything would be okay, but continued to cry, and I felt my myself wanting to cry, so I walked away and went back to my room. Instead of walking away, I could have used that as a moment to connect with her and share our grief, but instead I preferred to deal with my own feelings, and left her to do the same. Also I should mention in my thought process, my dad was in the room and my brother came from out of his room, so in my head, I assumed that they would be better to comfort her than me, because how could I help her if I was “being weak.” Emotions aren’t weakness, they’re an understanding of not only yourself, but the acknowledging of others as well. It allows us to be both sympathetic and empathetic. Being able to connect with others in shared emotions lets us have these deep interpersonal connections; being able to understand someone pain, without having felt it before opens doors for honest conversations and healing. I have so much more learning to do, and so much more healing. It’s going to be a long, long process, but I’m excited for every step of the journey. It’s always so easy for me to fall back into cycles, but being able to know what I’m feeling in certain moments has helped me continue to take steps forward instead of back, and I’m lowkey ready to run now, but you know the saying, “slow and steady wins the race.” This is the race for the rest of my life, and I damn sure wanna enjoy it, so imma take my time. One day at a time.

This is cram full of wisdom 🤩 wow!

@rebelkatt Thank you, I really appreciate it! I’ve never gotten wisdom as a compliment before, that’s a new one for me, so I will be taking that one in proudly!

@nonottaylor I used to not think I was wise enough to embody the sage, but great things happen when you head towards a more self Compassionate mentality 🥰 Since claiming it for myself, I also can't help but to see others' wisdom better too