Dream Uncovers Destructive Inner Voice

Hey guys it’s been a long time since I’ve been on this app . So since the last time i came on here . A lot has happened. I moved out of state , i left my last relationship because ‘don’t let your boyfriend stop you from finding your husband’ and i think ive actually found him(long story. but i’m very much positive he was the one in my dreams). Im a bit more at peace . It’s a different environment altogether and it’s a bit more comforting. Now that that’s out the way… TELL ME WHY ?! (ain’t nuthin butta heartbreak) no but seriously tell me why last night i had one of the roughest nights .. shitty mood and no sleep. I was bummed out because of not being able to see my man this weekend , but i talked to him about it and got everything situated. So i start drifting off to sleep and everything is okay , right? Cool. I wake up at 3 something because he texts me before he gets ready to leave for work and then i usually go back to sleep after. So we did our ‘good mornings’ and i go back to sleep . Everything is still nice . Right before i get up though, i have a dream . ——AND THIS IS THE POINT OF THIS POST—— Tyrek and I have a mutual acquaintance/friend/girl we know, and this girl, while i love her zownnnn, has a tendency to be sleeping around behind other people that she knows have been sleeping with that person. I’m not judging her in any way, shape, or form. But in my dream!!! My best friend who is also Tyrek’s best friend was on a phone call and idk if i wasn’t in the room physically or if i was, but i know that metaphysically i was in the room. And i heard him say ‘oh where’s ____?’ I didn’t hear the name so i can’t be too certain he said my name or the girl i mentioned earlier. The person on the other end of the call was like ‘oh she stayed behind to help him produce/engineer some shit’ our best friend goes ‘oh with Reek? Awe she love him bad’ but mind you he LOOKS in my direction but i don’t think he saw me(so maybe i wasn’t physically in the room) but makes a face like 😬 so immediately im on high alert. Now the girl i mentioned can see me so im like UMM WHO ?! sounding like an angry owl fr repeating who who who . She tells me oh just go to his phone and remove Bluetooth so you can hear what they’re saying. I couldn’t do it, but not for lack of trying. I assumed it was her BUT hindsight she was there telling me who to listen to, so it couldn’t have been her. Maybe it was me. Wow (by the way i just came to the conclusion in real time that it was probably me they were talking about this whole time…) Dawg the negative pessimistic voice that’s been in my head is going to cause me to fuck everything up… my friendships, my relationships . I have GOT to get help for real.

The user shares a profound dream experience that brought to light their internal "negative pessimistic voice" and its potential to sabotage relationships. This realization, stemming from a dream where a friend's partner was discussing 'her' involvement with another friend, has prompted the user to acknowledge the need for help to overcome these self-defeating thought patterns.

I understand that voice in your head, mine messes with me too. Just try to remember it was just a dream. Have you tried meditating to sort out all of the feelings the dream brought up?

honestly that voice gets loud when we feel good about something. like you got the move, got the guy, got the peace, so now your brain's like okay time to find the threat. it's not actually predicting the future, it's just doing its job badly. the fact that you caught it in a dream instead of acting on it is actually the win here.

@reikinurse i woke up and literally yelled at myself like ‘i know you fuckin lying!’ And i kinda snapped out of it

@marcusj thank you ! I’m actually trying, i really like him and im trying my hardest not to self sabotage.

Yeah you got this.

@mrsaruns44 i really hope so bc ive been lowkey losing my mind over the whole thing