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Deepening Intimacy Through Witnessing Vulnerability

izzyb888
izzyb888
Sober•Dec 28, 2025, 11:30 PM•2 min read
Self-Discovery
izzyb888
izzyb888Dec 28, 2025, 11:30 PM
baseline
I just realized how much I want to see / be there while G sleeps. Thinking about past lovers, I remember my intimacy with them deepening after they’ve spent the night (obviously) but also the morning when I wake up and they’re completely asleep, it’s very humanizing and tender. I wonder what G’s hair looks like displaced from laying on a pillow. Cheek smushed up and mouth open and breathing evenly. Does he sleep on his back? Does he snore? Is he a light sleeper? Does he talk in his sleep? I want to see his face peaceful like that. I want him to be vulnerable like that in front of me. I want him to be okay with not having control over his appearance / “looking dumb” in front of me. I want to stare at his features without being blinded, like trying to look at the sun.
wavypurple
wavypurpleDec 29, 2025, 1:50 AM
cannabis
@izzyb888 I love watching my partner sleep. I always wake up much earlier than him and every morning I drink my coffee in bed next to him, and in that quiet morning stillness I listen to him breathing gently. I touch his warm skin and run my fingers through his soft hair. I cherish those moments of true peace and I’m grateful to be in love.
izzyb888
izzyb888Dec 29, 2025, 1:55 AM
baseline
@wavypurple yess exactly this. You get it

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